A very genuine welcome to parents and carers living with or supporting young people who have mental health difficulties, trauma histories or special educational needs, particularly those parents who feel helpless, stuck or lost. It might be because you don't know how to manage some difficult or harmful behaviour, or it might be that you don't know how to support your child towards a greater level of independence.
A warm welcome also to practitioners who are here in the hopes of finding support for parents and carers doing their best in this difficult situation. We recognise how frustrating it can be to support parents and carers when nothing we bring to the table seems to help.
Whatever your reason for being here, we hope you'll find something useful.
WHAT IS NVR?
Non-violent resistance, or NVR, is a set of ideas and strategies specifically developed to enable parents and carers to:
keep their child and others safe
support their child to develop and maintain healthy relationships
support their child to develop a positive self image
develop towards their full potential so they can have a good future
None of us are perfect. As parents we often develop some unhealthy patterns of behaviour where our children are concerned. We might get into power struggles and refuse to back down, usually because we think that's the right thing to do - because we think parents need to be in charge. We might give in to unreasonable requests and demands for an easy or quiet life. This can be a bit (or a lot) more pronounced when we're parenting children and young people who have a trauma history or are neurodivergent. We know we need to do things differently. We know that traditional parenting methods don't always work, and can make things worse, but we don't always know what to do instead. At best we can feel stuck and a bit lost. At worst we can feel helpless or hopeless, and we might find ourselves being worried about our own emotional responses or behaviour.
Whether it's one to one or group support, NVR can help us to think about what's happening in our homes, why it's happening, where we're stuck, and how to get unstuck. It's not a panacea. It's not a magic wand. It can get us on a good path which in itself brings hope.
NVR was originally developed to be used with teenagers who were off the rails but over the years it's been tweaked and tested and found to be helpful in all sorts of situations including children's mental health settings, adhd and autism, and with trauma/attachment.
The NVR map
Parental presence is at the heart of the NVR approach.
To find out more about parental presence and some of the ways we increase our parental presence in NVR, click on the image below.
WE'VE CHANGED OUR NAME
We were originally NVR informed North East to reflect the fact that although we're all advanced NVR practitioners, we draw on all sorts of other theories and approaches within the work, depending on the needs of individual families and specific groups. However, we've been given feedback that NVR informed implies that we're not fully qualified NVR practitioners, which would be misleading. In fact what we deliver and support people with is NVR with our delivery being informed by many other theories and approaches!